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New beginnings are associated with new expectations and new hopes. They often uplift us and give us a promise of positive change. Many of us view the start of a new year as a new cycle of life that brings potential for a brighter tomorrow. In fact, this time of year is so powerful that it inspires many of us to make resolutions for change. Of course, once the moment of inspiration passes and daily reality sets in, our commitment to the change often dissipates as well, and we find ourselves breaking the New Year’s resolutions we set just a few months or even weeks ago.
Why is it difficult for us to hold on to our goals? For a variety of reasons – one, because creating new outcomes often takes time and effort, two, because we don’t notice enough tangible progress to keep us encouraged and motivated, and three, because we often don’t have a strong and positive emotional attachment to our outcomes. And that is a key component of creation. Some people may disagree at this point, saying that they certainly have strong wishes for a change and are very focused on it, but the truth is, most of the time when we want to create something new, our emotions primarily focus on how much we don’t want the old.
Think about it. When people make the resolution to lose weight, they are often fueled by a feeling of dislike (if not loathing) for their current weight. When people decide to stop smoking, they are usually driven by a disgust at their dependency. And even if the resolution is something as innocent as spending more time with one’s kids, the person might be propelled by anger and disappointment at the failure to give the kids sufficient attention in the past.
And this is where our plans begin to fall apart because the secret of creation is that we attract to ourselves the things that match our vibrational frequency. The premise behind this is simple: all things (including emotions) have a certain frequency to them, and like radio stations, they attract to them things that vibrate at their frequency. Low emotions, such as fear, hatred, disgust, etc. pull toward themselves things that have low frequency, and elevated emotions, such as love, appreciation, gratitude, joy, etc., pull toward themselves things that have high frequency.
Based on this very simple law of creation, the emotional state we hold as we work on attaining our goals is critical to our success. The answer, however, is not merely in a belief in a positive outcome but a targeted and intentional focus on the desired outcome and the changes it will create all wrapped in sustained high-frequency emotions. In other words, it requires imagining yourself at the desired weight doing things you truly would enjoy doing, all while feeling immense joy about it in the present moment (no matter the current weight). A sustained practice of this sort can help us bring our New Year’s resolutions to reality faster and in a more sustainable way than if we do it purely by the force of our will.
But New Year’s resolutions don’t have to be the only things that we focus on each year. Everything in life can become the focus of intentional creation, and the approach to such creation, once understood and learned, can be practiced by anyone.