Success is something that all of us consciously desire. It promises us fulfilled dreams
and social validation. Yet underneath, at a subconscious level, sometimes lies the fear
of it. This paradox affects many people, sabotaging ambitions and hindering progress.
Why does that happen? Why can humans be so apprehensive about achieving the goals
they set for themselves?
Fear of the unknown
One of the primary reasons behind our fear of success is fear of the unknown. We like
all that is known or familiar, and we fear all that is unknown or uncertain. And even
though success can promise us the things we crave, it can also bring with it a whirlwind
of change. Humans are historically predisposed to view change as a negative because
change brings with it uncertainty, and so we subconsciously try to reject things that can
create change even when the change has the potential to bring joy and fulfillment. To
ensure that we don’t sabotage our own process, we need to accept the uncertainty of
the future and develop some level of comfort with the unknown.
The imposter syndrome
The imposter syndrome or a belief that one's success is undeserved or a result of luck
rather than skill is another potent force that can fuel our fear of success. It is more
common than one might think, and it causes us to experience anxiety when new
opportunities for success present themselves. Despite external evidence of competence,
when we are plagued by the imposter syndrome, we live in fear of being exposed as
frauds. We may also feel that regardless of past successes, we are just as likely to fail
in the future. This fear can manifest as a subconscious barrier, preventing us from fully
embracing our accomplishments and striving for further success.
Fear of judgment and of being seen
Success often puts us at the center of attention, inviting scrutiny from others. The fear
of judgment, criticism, or even jealousy can be paralyzing. The pressure to maintain
newfound success or live up to perceived standards can overshadow the joy of
achievement, brining up insecurity and self-doubt. However, sometimes, people are
simply not comfortable drawing attention to themselves. They are okay with being
successful at what they do but only to the extent that the eyes of the world are not
turned on them. If achieving success is perceived as increased exposure, we might
choose to pull away from it.
Loss of Identity and Freedom
Success can redefine our sense of identity and autonomy. It may also require us to
make sacrifices in time, personal relationships, or hobbies. We may fear losing our
sense of self or becoming someone different. We may also fear becoming “enslaved” by
the demands of success and of having to meet increased external expectations. While
consciously we may crave to be successful, subconsciously we may fear the added
pressures or the internal changes we may have to experience, and this can produce a
deep-seated reluctance to progress further along the path of success.
Fear of failure in disguise
The fear of success can actually mask a fear of failure. Success amplifies the stakes,
draws more public attention, and heightens the potential consequences of any errors. If
we approach potential success with lowered self-esteem or a distorted sense of identity,
we may fear that achieving success will only set us up for a more spectacular fall,
amplifying our anxiety and reluctance to take the necessary risks.
Hypnotherapy and Fear of Success
Can fear of success be overcome? Absolutely. Acknowledgement of the issue is always
the first step in any transformation, and finding good support system is the next. In my
hypnotherapy practice, I guide clients toward developing mindfulness and self-reflection
so they can become more aware of the sabotaging behaviors and unsupportive
thoughts. I help them release any emotional baggage that may be generating fears. I
reframe their limiting beliefs so the clients’ new beliefs align with their goals instead of
stalling their progress. I work with clients on setting realistic expectations so they not
only achieve success, but also maintain it. And finally, I help clients experience joy and
excitement about the success they are building.
Fear of success reflects a complex interplay of psychological factors rooted in our desire
for security and acceptance. By releasing our fears, shifting our limiting beliefs, and
embracing vulnerability, we can allow ourselves to experience fulfillment and authentic
success.
